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April 28, 2013


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so today I went out at 10am to do a grad photoshoot for a friend
then came back home at 4:30 and proceeded to cry alone for a good half hour. (((I know, I know)))

my friend's dad completely ruined my day holy fucking shit man. first of all he made everyone stand in the most boring conventional poses ever (completely pissing all over the artistic image that I'm going for, which is why this set definitely won't be posted publicly) and second of all HE KEPT. FUCKING. RUSHING ME. if I didn't take pictures fast enough he'd start saying 'click click click' and he kept asking if we were done yet.  so the pictures are forced looking and/or they're not quite in focus sometimes because I was so tightly wound the whole time and I wasn't able to concentrate on what I was doing. IAHGFDGHDFJNFRD STOP YELLING AT ME TO TAKE PICTURES I HAVE TO FOCUS YOU PRICK.

as if that wasn't enough pressure he also wanted to see EVERY GODDAMN PICTURE I TOOK. LIKE FOUR TIMES EACH. complete with lovely commentary like 'that one's okay' and 'yeah alright'.

he wouldn't let anyone do cute, candid type photos. no silly faces or poses. and I had hell to pay if I shot him at a slight angle because he hates his goddamn nose. also we could only take pictures in the house because it was cold. two out of the four people I was photographing wouldn't even put in the effort to SMILE. ARE YOU SHITTING ME. how am I supposed to work with you if you won't even provide me with basic grounds to start with??

I was just shaking and being awkward the whole time because I was so nervous and stressed. I get anxiety really easily, but absolutely resenting doing something that I love and want to do for a living was completely new to me and I HATED it. I hated the atmosphere, I hated the way I was treated and I hated all of the pictures.

I'm 17 for frick sakes. I'm a beginner, I'm learning, and I'm probably at the most unstable point in my life right now. I'm trying to earn enough money to survive school in a city 14 hours away from my family come August, alone for the first time and not knowing anybody at all. oh yeah, by the way this whole ordeal was for a measly 50$.

it's going to sound like I'm overreacting but I'm such a stressed person that is normally so passionate about photography, that this whole day just knocked me a couple steps back. I've never been treated like an artist before. like a professional. I'm always treated like a tool - people get all uppity when I expect to be paid the tiny amount of money I ask for, and instead of appreciating my artistic integrity, my style, they expect me to give them beautiful products with little to no freedom to do so.

SO THE LESSON HERE is never let yourself be underpaid for your art or service, and you DO NOT need to deal with people's shit. if you have a client that wants you to lower your prices, or doesn't treat you with respect - DUMP EM. you don't need to have that, there will be other people that are reasonable and easy to get along with that come along. those asshats aren't worth your time and won't make a difference in the long run. DON'T LET YOURSELF BE PUSHED AROUND. YOU are the artist, and YOU dictate how things go. if someone can't accept that, they can move right along.
stay true to yourself, and don't let people step all over you! be a door, not a doormat. >v<b

sorry for freaking out, it's just something that really affected me emotionally and creatively.

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NicoLovesMe Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
just punch him in the crotch and you can take a picture of him crying in agony. yeah that sounds nice.
kiemilkkie Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
that would make me feel better haha~
emm-gee Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
its ok, any time you're working with people, you will get clients like this
i get it at the salon. people telling me exactly what to do and what not to do, shitting their pants if i'm holding the comb at the wrong angle and proceeding to rip my own equipment out of my hand to do it themselves.
people like to take advantage of the fact that you're young and try to make you feel worthless if you're less experienced in their mind. i used to get stressed over it and try to do my best to please them because i thought it would be the best thing to do. you can't let them push you around. remind them that you're the expert and if they don't like what you're doing they're welcome to go to someone else
just remember that there's way more pleasant people out there than miserable ones. don't let pricks like that ruin it for you
ps you can take pictures of me any time you want, i won't complain about anything :meow:
kiemilkkie Featured By Owner May 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
aaahhh you're totally right. ;A;
ahgjkfngd but yess there will always (hopefully) be the decent people that outnumber the bad ones.
girl, if we ever met I WOULD LOVE THAT <3
emm-gee Featured By Owner May 1, 2013
haha you get used to it. you just have to learn not to take it personally. usually if you calmly ask them if they'd rather go to someone else for whatever service it is you're offering them (in your case, photography) they either shut up and let you do your thing or just leave
some people are just plain miserable~
Frangasm Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
Oh man so much truth in this :iconsadcraiplz:
//holds u
it's ok kishimoofins u __u
Your clients are the ones coming to YOU so you don't need to put up with that :V Maybe it's just 'cause you're new/slightly unexperienced, and that's why it happened
But keep working hard \o\
Good Luck with your school and go go go 화이팅!!
I'll be cheering you on, and be sure to post some of your photography on dA some time!
kiemilkkie Featured By Owner May 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
we have the toughest jobs in the world buuuhhhh
00kikyo00 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Poor thing~ Ignore them. You are an amazing photographer, just forget about the whole ordeal. ;) Loves yous
kiemilkkie Featured By Owner May 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I love you toooo ;q; <3
Pastel-Cupcakes Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That's terrible :( I hope you never have to go through an ordeal like this one again.
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